I am a hopeless romantic and I am not ashamed to admit it. Why should I? For me, romance is the most beautiful, happy, exciting, essential part of a relationship. It doesn’t matter if you are in a new relationship or one that is decades old, it is extremely important to keep the romance flame alive because is that flame that keeps the interest going and the libido in check.
I’m assuming you get involved with someone because you want to feel loved, be happy, feel that you matter and are appreciated. Right? Guess what? Your pattern is in it for the same reason. But how do you go about demonstrating all that without romance? Nobody is asking you to take your partner to some rosy hill running down holding hands singing some BS tune on a glorious day, no, just the bare minimum within your reach.
Some people don’t have it in them, I get it but it’s not an excuse to get out of it without making effort either. I think it’s selfish and shows a lack of care. Nowadays we are lucky to have free scholarships on Google and Youtube, you can go there and learn anything you want, anything, therefore, not doing anything romantic for your partner is unforgivable. So while you’re here take my tips and you’ll be just fine.
These are my Top 10 most romantic ideas:
PicNic – If you’re not a picnic in the park kind of person, then your alternative is a cosy dinner on a rooftop somewhere. For the very lazy, just dinner in their favourite restaurant will do. And the key here is the word “Restaurant” NOT a frogging fast food joint near you.
Present – You don’t need to wait for a special occasion to be nice and generous. I’m not talking about taking her on a shopping spree on Oxford Street, Westfield will suffice. And the beauty is that you don’t even need to plan it, be spontaneous and just do it while you’re out and about.
Surprise – Everyone loves a good surprise because is romantic and it gives you that feeling of excitement, be it a bouquet, jewellery, a single rose, that item they talk so much about, etc… etc… Receiving something that you like unexpectedly is always a joy.
Dancing – Nowadays the streets are full of amazing artists singing their hearts out for survival, when you’re passing one, stop, be generous with your donation and then turn to your partner and ask her to dance with you. Yes, on the streets and in the middle of the crowd, why not? But again, there’s always an alternative. When you’re having a cosy evening, put some music on and ask her to dance in the privacy of your own space. No crowd, no excuses.
Bath – Relaxing bath is always appreciated. Prepare a nice scented bath with candles around for your partner and allow them time to enjoy it. You can go the extra mile and toss some rose petals into the water but as long as it’s scented and candles around, it will be good enough.
Hang out – Most of the time couples just coddle up on the sofa, which is normal but can be boring. Sometimes it’s a great idea to have a living room picnic. Simply push your tea table aside, blanket on the floor, the tray of grapes and strawberries, glass of your favourite wine and voile la! Especially if it is during winter and you have a fireplace.
Travel dinner – Hold on, I am not asking you to Jet anyone to Paris for dinner at Savoy. But if you can afford it, why not? There are so many River Cruise companies in London, that we are spoiled for choice. Some are better than the others but you can always find one that serves dinner and bubble during the sightseeing. Take your partner to see London at night while having dinner and champagne, it’s simply magical. Or whatever is great where you are, you got the idea.
Cinema – This is one of my top favourites. Take your partner to see a movie. It doesn’t have to be a romantic movie, as long as it’s one you both will enjoy. We all love slouching on the couch watching Netflix but for frog’s sake, it’s good to make effort sometimes. The magic of big-screen will always be there even when the movies are total rubbish, the time spent there together and munching popcorn is worth it.
Letter – Writing a letter to your partner is an old-school thing I know, but that’s exactly what makes it so romantic. It’s personal, it’s well thought of and caring. Not on email, post it!
Dedicate a song – There are millions of lyrics that feel like someone is singing about your situation because there are always those whom you identify with. Pick one that is close to a message you want to send to your partner and dedicate it to them. For me, passing messages through songs is one of the most romantic gestures ever.
The list is endless…
Romance is about appreciation, intimacy, closeness and commitment, it brings excitement, anticipation and the feeling of being in love. And it improves the sexual drive. It is the desire to be close to someone who makes you feel good about yourself that is what got you in the relationship in the first place, so why not make the most of it? Make effort at least once a month and you’ll be covered for the year. Well… just repeat a couple of them, or ask me for more tips and I’ll be more than happy to provide them.
So if any mother frogger ever said to you “I am not a romantic type”, darling, the translation is loud and clear – “I just can’t give a frog”. One may not be but it’s learnable! So be kind and re-direct them to this article so they can take note of the basic ideas.
By the one and only,
Graciete
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