We are all humans, and some will do or say whatever it takes to have their way with others, to be ahead of the game, to have an upper hand, to be at the top regardless of whom they are stepping over as long as it takes them or gives them what they want. If you agree, pay attention.
I understand that we all want amazing things in our lives, the very best and we all dream of having it, however, being realistic about your expectations will save you tears and heartache in the long run. I’m not saying to aim low, I’m just saying it will be healthier to aim for an achievable target, something you know you can get, an outcome you are confident that is within your grasp.
I am the kind of person that always see good in people, I choose to because it makes me happier, it makes me feel that this world is actually wonderful as Louis Armstrong said and I believe it.
Unfortunately, we can only control our behaviours and shape our characters, as for others, is up to them the way they decide to live their lives, which means is out of our hands unless it’s your child. But at this instance, I’m talking of adults that we encounter in our day-to-day lives, which can be family members, a co-worker, a partner or spouse, you name it.
Since I was a kid my expectations were always off the chart, I ain’t gonna lie, I start seeing glitters and rainbows in every promise, and because I always put my one hundred per cent trust in everything I was told it always made things worst when they don’t meet my overly grand expectation. But the good thing is, I bounced back pretty quickly, I just needed five minutes of fresh air and the troubles will be a thing of the past. Well… it takes a bit longer these days but I still bounce back in a reasonable time. Don’t judge, I’m only human.
I guess as we grow up our perception becomes more clear and our sense of reality is more in tune with our surroundings but somehow, we can still let our expectations run wild. I know I do. (Sometimes) For whatever weird reason…
My trust in humanity still lets me down but I don’t care, I always hope for the best and if the worst shows up instead, I deal with it. However, I am becoming more resilient, growing a thicker skin and getting the understanding that we are not all the same and I urge you to do the same, the faster you understand that what you expect may and most of the time will be different from the other person, the better it is for your sanity.
Clear communication is very important, it brings you to the same page with the other person in question, however, it’s always good to remember that the other person can and is entitled to change their mind, or they can change the plan as you imagine it, or they can quit on you altogether. Sad but, they’re entitled to. And if you’re the kind of person that when someone asks you out, you’re already planning what you’re going to name your kids, at that point, you’ll feel like a barrel that has been kicked down from the top of a mountain.
Some people get trapped in their illusions, (Including myself) Sometimes… looking into everything with rose-tinted glasses, ignoring our intuition and the naked truth right before our eyes, we keep hoping that it’s just a moment that will go away or that we can fix. But they just lie we tell ourselves and eventually, we have to remove the rose-tinted glasses and face the reality. It sacks but hey, better soon than never.
The take here is for you not to expect to harvest oranges off of your lemon tree, it ain’t gonna happen. Feel free to dream as big as you want, but when faced with a situation, please remove your fancy glasses and take a realistic look into your situation and ask yourself if it will meet your expectations. If it will, bravo, if not, adjust accordingly. Or, just get out.
What you mustn’t do is lie to yourself thinking it will adjust to your expectations. If your own diagnosis tells you the truth in the first place, ignoring it is setting yourself up for a big disappointment of your own doing. So, adjust or out.
By the one and only,
Graciete
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