When it comes to the first date, there is no exception, we all want to look our best for the occasion. We want it to be fun and hoping for it to be just what we are looking for. But the question is… what are we looking for? This question will have a different answer for different individuals however, the fundamental remains, What do we want?
Dating expectations can be different according to your preferences, so it’s important to know who you are and what it is that you want from it in order to get the best experience. You may have a checklist for the day that includes things such as Hairdresser, Makeup, Outfit, Accessories, etc…
But what about a “Quick exit plan”? Do you normally prepare for it too? No, that’s the answer. Some may… but it will be in a minuscule percentage.
Dating apps are popping up everywhere and when you include social media it is just too overwhelming, and worst yet, you can’t really tell who is on the other side of your screen therefore, it’s important to be prepared when you’re meeting someone new, being cautious is never too much, as long is not border lining paranoia.
Going on a date should be fun and relaxing, an experience that should be enjoyable. Do not go on camouflage and binoculars to check if your date doesn’t look like a psycho killer before heading to the toilet to change and join them. It’s not about a “Stay on your toe” alert, no, it’s not, it’s about being prepared in case it does not meet your expectations and you need a quick exit. I don’t believe in time waisting therefore cutting it short is advisable.
This list is about helping you cut it short. You can be bored or realised that you’ve been catfished, made to feel uncomfortable by their behaviour or language, the person didn’t bother to shower before meeting you and want out, the best way is to accept the possibilities and have a plan in place.
So here are my top three strategies for a quick exit:
First – Bold and Beautiful: Say thank you for meeting up, stand up and leave. This strategy is best for when you find yourself faced with a very touchy person, or their vocabulary is full of sexualised innuendos or any other attitude that makes you feel uncomfortable. However, this should be a strategy for those who are tough enough to stand up for themselves. In this case, no explanation of your leaving is needed but in case you are questioned by your Date, you will be bold enough to tell them that you’re not happy with their behaviour, you’re cutting the night short and are no longer interested. (Without causing a scene. Hopefully) Leave and delete them immediately to avoid harassment.
Second: On-Call Friend: Excuse yourself, go to the Ladies and ask that friend to call you in 5 minutes. This strategy is for those who aren’t so brave or just don’t know how to react. Sadly, I fit into this category, that’s exactly why I came up with this idea. Politely excuse yourself to go to the Ladies, text the “On-Call” friend and ask for them to ring you back in 5 minutes. (Time enough for you to go back to your Date) However, this is a pre-planned strategy, your friend needs to know in advance what message they will get from you and what to do next. When the call comes, act shocked, let them know that you’ll be there in a few minutes and hang up. Gather your stuff quickly while explaining to your Date that something urgent came up and needs your attention. Leave in haste to avoid further explanation and refuse any help from them. After you exit, the same rule applies, block and delete them.
Third: Yeah… you gonna have to ask privately. Sorry. But I can tell you that I fantasise about it a lot.
Most dates will be something close to what you expect as long as you have some understanding of each other’s behaviour through communications prior to the face-to-face meeting. However, the main thing here is for you to have a plan in place in case you need it. Chose the one that fits your personality best, or better yet, come up with your own strategy as long as it provides you with a clean and fast exit away from that Mother-Frogger.
By the one and only,
Graciete
